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i might be a walking yellow flag

I sent this to a friend once 7 months ago just for the thing in the video to happen anyway it sad but it is what it is

I’ve been following you for years and love how much useful and eye-opening insights you have. Recently, Inside Out 2 just came out. I was wondering if you could ever share insights related to that movie and/or the first movie and how we can apply those films’ lessons in real life

Dont have any rules or expectations for your kids or youre a toxic parent REEEEEEE

More marxist drivel aiming to destroy the family. Once the nukes fly things are gonna change quickly

I don't really believe most claims of abuse because the threshold for calling something abusive is so low. Physical and sexual abuse is pretty clear, but verbal and emotional abuse is extremely foggy. To the point that a therapist tried to convince me that my mother being bad at conveying wishes and intentions was emotional abuse.

just making sure i’m not a narcissist. luckily it’s just social anxiety 😘

Wishing I could **unblock her** to **send this to her** and **block her** before she replies.

I think it's important to understand and communicate that some people -- narcissistic parents, for example -- are going to be offended no matter what you say or how you say it

Wondering if there is much of a difference between step families and traditional nuclear intact families? I know of situations where not all of the children of a natural parent had the same view of the parenting and family. Sometimes the estranged have their own issues and cause issues.

Highly recommend, if possible, flying to your partners place and “playing house” for like 2 weeks, and vice versa (so you can see each other in their “natural habitat” so to speak. Give yourself a little taste of what mundane minute to minute day to day life with them looks like

THANK YOU !!!!!!!

I’ve been stalked, on and off for years, and now I’m being stalked bc of revenge corn by a lot of ppl, ppl try to normalize stalking on social media too

You never mentioned neurodivergency and how society needs to change certain social norms to better accommodate neurodivergent people. I think this plays a huge role

Best way to avoid cheating is to stay single. That option is becoming more attractive to me everyday

Who do I associate with to get an extrovert good looking spouse as an introvert?

I have went no contact with my mom a little over ago. She is toxic to my mental and emotional health. After 43 years I finally noticed that the way she talked to me and more importantly the way she talked about me was not normal. After educating myself for a couple years on boundaries, self healing and getting to know myself a little more I finally told her that she is no longer allowed to talk to me the way she does. That I love her and hope one day we are able to work on our relationship but for now I’m working on me.

the only thing that will make me happy is ana replying to me

After years of trying to talk to her and typing a letter with clear bullet points, she would literally scream at me, "Why won't you tell me what I did wrong!?" She took forgivness as acceptance and would do the same thing again. The last thing she ever screamed at me was that I had to forgive her so she could go to heaven. That, to me, made it very clear that she knew she was wrong. The last words sbe heard from me were, "If you want forgiveness, ask Jesus. That's not my job." Best decision I ever made.

why do you constantly censor words? it's so annoying to listen to

There's something wrong with your audio. I had a hard time figuring out what you were saying sometimes. And I'm really hoping you didn't ruin your audio track on purpose out of some misguided trigger idea. It actually makes the word ABUSE more glaringly apparent when you do that... it sticks out in your mind & you hear it echoing in your thoughts b/c you highlighted it by singling out the word in this way. My advice: stop that now. It's supremely unhelpful and just makes you hard to hear on top of it

Damn, Doctor.

Great point… I got a dog a few years ago and I was super careful not to make his do anything. If he wants to cuddle great! If not, that’s fine too. Treating all beings with respect is the only way. Thankfully he’s a super easy and very affectionate pup. He really is the best…

This book changed my life. I would not have left my then abusive situation without it’s insights.

Basing anything solely on feelings is faulty .

Why would you be willing to contribute to hurting cows in order to get their milk only for a *perfume*?

For me moving to a new country and starting everything all over again absolutely alone was a huge stress, which kicked me into these immature behaviors faster than I even noticed. Never underestimate disadaptive protection mechanisms of your psychic, guys) And don't be fast to judge adults with such behavior for "never growing up". We never know what these people are going through at the moment.

I really liked this video, to the extent of coming back and taking notes on it! The practical advice combined with fun facts (negative two packs per day? Damn!) was excellent.

I'm hiding in my car right now as my abusive ex girlfriend won't leave my home.

I’ll have to check this movie out.Great video

It feels so unnatural to hear you talk like this 😂

I wasn't abused at home, but I wasn't protected from abuse at school like I should have been. I wasn't transferred to another school like I should have been, like I was pleading with my parents to do.

Very easy to understand and relate. To me a bad fight is when a mediator comes in. You said alot thay was hard to admit to, but accurate advice, thank you.

😮 wow I can't believe I'm hearing this stuff it's all real it's not in my head

It seems like it’s not often people stand up for the kids.

anarchist hierarchy perspective: I think the role of parenting in modern society can easily lead to abuse without any intention by the nature of parenting being something that gives them an extreme amount of control and responsibility, I think a lot about my own experiences and how the nuclear family parenting has a bunch of blind spots and how they were raised is their normative idea of what parenting is, which leads to them thinking such harmful behaviors as acceptable. I think a lot about how child autonomy and rights alongside communal parenting structures that do not center biological connections as the main factor in who has control over a child would allow for a healthier connection and a better understanding of what is acceptable behavior for the child than the potential harm from an unhealthy family structure that leads to the eventual estrangement where it's clear a parent has no intent to respect the feelings of the child, the "are you talking back to me" doesn't end when you become an adult, they just outright reject your feelings. Even for people who have healthy family connections, it also would be a benefit to understand how more people work and give us a better sense of connection and community.

whatabout when a teacher pushes trans onto a child over uears and years and then the child comes out as trans even thoughnthey never were interested innthe first place and when a parent rejects it, the parent is the bad guy. i would see that as a 3rd party changing the mind of a child or young adult againat the parents teachings. i would say if over yeard and hears the young adult wants that ,then thats fine. but a permenant change of self from a short term relationship with a "really cool, smart, ally teacher" is crazyness.

Some of them are just spoiled brats throwing a tantrum to manipulate their mother , because she wants to have contact with both her sons . .

I find ultra young analysts quite difficult to take seriously.

Caveat: some folks have legit no clue wtf they're doing, and will reevaluate and modify their behavior when told directly. Source: I've been this person. Caveat to my caveat: I've never actually been called 'abusive', per se, but I do constantly notice little shitty things I've done / have been a pattern in my life, and have been called out on things I never noticed until it was pointed out to me explicitly.

Letting go of all three of my parents was me keeping a promise to my inner child, that I would protect me, the way they didn’t.

Thank you, this was very healing, as I went no-contact with my mother two years ago and recently experienced triangulation with several family members, then had no choice but to leave behind the relationship with my step father. I understand all the reasons the adult children in this study gave, my head was nodding over and over.

Thank you, this was very healing, as I went no-contact with my mother two years ago and recently experienced triangulation with several family members, then had no choice but to leave behind the relationship with my step father. I understand all the reasons the adult children in this study gave, my head was nodding over and over.

I am not physically estranged from my mother, but I am emotionally estranged from her. It is a long story, but I have always felt she is selfish and didn't really want the responsibility of children but had them anyway. Once my parents divorced, we became our grandparents' problems. Lucky for us, they were great. She loves me in her own way. However, she is self-centered, and I learned very early on that I should not depend on her. I can only talk to her for so long before she says something that sets my teeth on edge. For this reason, we rarely talk because I make the majority of the effort in our relationship, and I am over it. We are not friends. I am easily annoyed by her antics, so it is best if we keep the contact to a minimum.

Thank you dr.ana! I aspire to be you one day

Why am I watching this I’m the most single person in the world 😂

This is a good method to use, HOWEVER this would only reliably work if the other person uses this method and even then what replys people give to you oftain depends on outside factors you have no influence on or awareness of. Still, I will be using this from now on as a general social rule of thumb.

LONG. LIVE. CAT. THERAPY

Thank you for the video! With the current waitlist to see mental health providers, this research is the only tool available to me. So you have a new subscriber.